Couples Work &
Relationship Counseling

with Dr. Noelle Benach LCPC, CST, PhD

I help couples, polyamorous folx, and consensually non monogamous people to move towards relational wellness utilizing a combination of evidence based therapeutic modalities, including the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), the Gottman Method, and Prepare/Enrich.

Relationship Modalities Utilized

PACT

The Gottman Method

Prepare/Enrich

Specialities

I have worked with a diverse range of couples and individuals in varying relationship structures. Including:

  • LGBTQIA+ Relationships

  • Premarital Couples

  • Sex Therapy

    • Sexual concerns such as differing desire levels

    • Kink & BDSM

    • Polyamory & Consensual Non-monogamy

    • Sexual trauma

  • Neurodiverse Relationships

  • Parenting / Co-Parenting Concerns

  • Fertility Treatments, Infertility, and Loss.

LGBTQIA+ Couples

I am particularly passionate about working with members of the LGBTQIA+ community. While many same-sex or queer identified couples share commonalities with their heterosexual heterosexual counterparts, their larger social context is often quite different. This is due to many factors including the influences of our dominant heterosexual culture, gender role expectations, and differing levels of familial, legal, religious, economic, and social supports. Combined with universal stressors, these particular challenges for queer couples can become particularly overwhelming.

As a queer identified human, I personally understand and have experienced some of the unique factors that impact couples within the LGBTQIA+ community. This drives my passion for providing affirming, informed, and evidence-based therapy for queer couples.

Premarital Couples

I enjoy working with couples who are in the process of deepening their commitment to one another through marriage, moving in with one another, or taking other large steps within their relationship. I am a certified Prepare/Enrich facilitator and trainer. This enables me to offer the Prepare/Enrich assessment, which appraise satisfaction levels for couples in 12 relationship categories. The feedback generated from the assessment allows you and your partner to gain personalized insights into your relationship dynamics, commitment levels, personality, spiritual beliefs, and family systems. We then can utilize your assessment results to fuel structured counseling sessions that both focus on highlighting and maintaining your relational strengths and stretching your growth areas.

Sex Therapy

While I help people with a variety of sexual wellness and intimacy concerns, I’m particularly passionate about the following:

  • Women’s Sexual Wellness

    • Anorgasmia (Inability to have an orgasm)

    • Dyspareunia (Sexual Pain)

    • Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (Low libido)

    • Sexual Arousal Disorder (Difficulty becoming aroused)

  • LGBTQIA+ Concerns

    • Issues related to identity / ā€œcoming outā€

    • Queer Couple Concerns

    • Gender Affirming Care & Letter Writing

  • Couples and Relational Work

    • Differing Desire Levels

    • Polyamory

    • Consensual Non-monogamy

  • Kinks, BDSM, & Fetishes

  • Chronic Illness & Disability Related Sexual Wellness Concerns

  • Infertility Struggles

Kink, BDSM & Fetishes

As a kink-aware and sex-positive therapist, I specialize in providing counseling that is supportive of individuals, couples, and non monogamous folks who engage in alternative sexual practices, such as Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism (BDSM), fetishes, and more. I provide kinky folks with a non-judgmental and affirming space to explore sexual desires, preferences, and boundaries while promoting healthy communication, consent, and safe sex practices.

Working with a kink-aware and affirming therapist ensures that your provider is knowledgeable about and affirming of various kink practices, so that you do not have to fear judgement or take on the role of an educator. I specifically understand the importance of addressing the unique dynamics and challenges that may arise in kinky relationships such as issues with communication, trust, power dynamics, and consent. I place an emphasis is on promoting emotional well-being for all consenting parties while building foundational skills to promote secure functioning relationships.

Neurodiverse Relationships

A neurodiverse relationship refers to a romantic or interpersonal relationship where one or both partners identify as neurodivergent. A neurodivergent person is someone whose brain processes information in a way that is not typical of most individuals. This includes neurodevelopmental differences or conditions such as autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, and/or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).

Neurodiverse relationships can be incredibly fulfilling and enriching, while also presenting unique challenges such as differing styles of communication and information processing. Couples who are not neurotypical require understanding, empathy, and open communication to foster a healthy and supportive connection between partners with different neurological perspectives.

I identify as a clinician who is particularly skilled at helping neurodiverse couples manage their relational concerns due to both my clinical and personal experiences. I utilize a strengths based approach that is both understanding and non-pathologizing of each partner’s behaviors and perspectives.

Polyamorous & Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships

As a Poly-Friendly Professional, I am affirming of relationships of all structures and specialize in assisting individuals dealing with the complexities of multiple intimate connections. I offer compassionate guidance for those seeking to expand the boundaries of their current relationship, as well as those who are already practicing non-monogamy.

I’m experienced in supporting couples who are considering opening up their relationship or marriage for the first time. Therapy can be an incredible helpful space to explore both the emotional and logistical concerns that come with transitioning into ethical non-monogamy such as:

  • communication challenges

  • managing jealousy

  • setting and maintaining boundaries

  • and more