Couples Work &
Relationship Counseling

with Noelle Benach, LCPC, CST

I help couples, polyamorous folx, and consensually non monogamous people to move towards relational wellness utilizing a combination of evidence based therapeutic modalities, including the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), the Gottman Method, and Prepare/Enrich.

PACT

  • Developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin, PACT is a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. PACT has a reputation for effectively treating the most challenging couples.

    PACT was developed out of cutting-edge research in three areas:

    • Neuroscience: The study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.

    • Attachment Theory: The explanation for the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.

    • Biology of Human Arousal: The moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage.

    Your experience during a PACT session may differ somewhat from what you would experience in other forms of couple therapy. Key features of this approach include:

    • I will focus on moment-to-moment shifts in your face, body, and voice, and ask you to pay close attention to these as a couple.

    • I will create experiences similar to those troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.

    • PACT tends to require fewer sessions than do other forms of couple therapy.

    • PACT sessions often are longer than other sessions. This allow for the in-depth work of PACT.

  • I have completed both levels one and two of PACT.

    • PACT Level 1 is the foundational course in the PACT training program. In it I learned the underlying principles and solid skills that PACT is known for. I also learned the critical building blocks for advanced study and becoming a successful PACT therapist. While a foundational course, PACT Level 1 is still a rigorous training program. I completed a number of reading assignments and videos to watch even before the first meeting. i also completed assignments between course modules. These required assignments allowed me to clarify my understanding of PACT principles and participate more meaningfully while in the live training with instructors and colleagues.

    • In PACT Level 2 training I learned more advanced skills and increased my confidence while integrating PACT into my clinical practice. Building on what I learned in Level 1, I was able to gain new insight, hone my assessment strategies and intervention techniques, and learn when and how to work more deeply with the most conflicted couples.

The Gottman Method

  • “This practical, emotion-focused, and highly effective approach is based on Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s four decades of research with more than 3,000 couples. It is the most extensive study ever done on marital stability and divorce prediction.” - The Gottman Institute

  • I have completed levels one and two of the Gottman Method trainings.

Prepare/Enrich

  • Dr. David Olson, family science pioneer, and his wife, Karen Olson, founded Prepare/Enrich in 1980. Since then, more than 4,000,000 couples have enriched their relationship through taking the Prepare/Enrich assessment and working with a Certified Facilitator. The assessment itself has been proven to improve relationship satisfaction. The mission of Prep/Enrich is to “equip marriage champions, couples, and families with evidence-based skills and insights to foster healthy relationships’. This is a highly researched method of couples therapy.

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  • I became a certified Prepare/Enrich Facilitator in 2018. The training provided me with the core knowledge and skills to confidently utilize Prepare/Enrich’s proven assessment and feedback resources to foster resilient relationships. The training helped me learn to:

    • Prepare couples to take the assessment

    • Interpret the assessment insights

    • Give personalized feedback

    • Initiate meaningful discussion

    • Facilitate relationship skill-building exercises

    After working with numerous couples, I was asked to become a P/E trainer.

Relationship Modalities Utilized

Specialities

I have worked with a diverse range of couples and individuals in varying relationship structures. Including:

  • LGBTQIA+ Relationships

  • Premarital Couples

  • Sex Therapy

    • Sexual concerns such as differing desire levels

    • Kink & BDSM

    • Polyamory & Consensual Non-monogamy

    • Sexual trauma

  • Neurodiverse Relationships

  • Parenting / Co-Parenting Concerns

LGBTQIA+ Couples

I am particularly passionate about working with members of the LGBTQIA+ community. While many same-sex or queer identified couples share commonalities with their heterosexual heterosexual counterparts, their larger social context is often quite different. This is due to many factors including the influences of our dominant heterosexual culture, gender role expectations, and differing levels of familial, legal, religious, economic, and social supports. Combined with universal stressors, these particular challenges for queer couples can become particularly overwhelming.

As a queer identified human, I personally understand and have experienced some of the unique factors that impact couples within the LGBTQIA+ community. This drives my passion for providing affirming, informed, and evidence-based therapy for queer couples.

Premarital Couples

I enjoy working with couples who are in the process of deepening their commitment to one another through marriage, moving in with one another, or taking other large steps within their relationship. I am a certified Prepare/Enrich facilitator and trainer. This enables me to offer the Prepare/Enrich assessment, which appraise satisfaction levels for couples in 12 relationship categories. The feedback generated from the assessment allows you and your partner to gain personalized insights into your relationship dynamics, commitment levels, personality, spiritual beliefs, and family systems. We then can utilize your assessment results to fuel structured counseling sessions that both focus on highlighting and maintaining your relational strengths and stretching your growth areas.

Sex Therapy

While I help people with a variety of sexual wellness and intimacy concerns, I’m particularly passionate about the following:

  • Women’s Sexual Wellness

    • Anorgasmia (Inability to have an orgasm)

    • Dyspareunia (Sexual Pain)

    • Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (Low libido)

    • Sexual Arousal Disorder (Difficulty becoming aroused)

  • LGBTQIA+ Concerns

    • Issues related to identity / “coming out”

    • Queer Couple Concerns

    • Gender Affirming Care & Letter Writing

  • Couples and Relational Work

    • Differing Desire Levels

    • Polyamory

    • Consensual Non-monogamy

  • Kinks, BDSM, & Fetishes

  • Chronic Illness & Disability Related Sexual Wellness Concerns

Kink, BDSM & Fetishes

As a kink-aware and sex-positive therapist, I specialize in providing counseling that is supportive of individuals, couples, and non monogamous folks who engage in alternative sexual practices, such as Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism (BDSM), fetishes, and more. I provide kinky folks with a non-judgmental and affirming space to explore sexual desires, preferences, and boundaries while promoting healthy communication, consent, and safe sex practices.

Working with a kink-aware and affirming therapist ensures that your provider is knowledgeable about and affirming of various kink practices, so that you do not have to fear judgement or take on the role of an educator. I specifically understand the importance of addressing the unique dynamics and challenges that may arise in kinky relationships such as issues with communication, trust, power dynamics, and consent. I place an emphasis is on promoting emotional well-being for all consenting parties while building foundational skills to promote secure functioning relationships.

Neurodiverse Relationships

A neurodiverse relationship refers to a romantic or interpersonal relationship where one or both partners identify as neurodivergent. A neurodivergent person is someone whose brain processes information in a way that is not typical of most individuals. This includes neurodevelopmental differences or conditions such as autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), dyslexia, and/or obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).

Neurodiverse relationships can be incredibly fulfilling and enriching, while also presenting unique challenges such as differing styles of communication and information processing. Couples who are not neurotypical require understanding, empathy, and open communication to foster a healthy and supportive connection between partners with different neurological perspectives.

I identify as a clinician who is particularly skilled at helping neurodiverse couples manage their relational concerns due to both my clinical and personal experiences. I utilize a strengths based approach that is both understanding and non-pathologizing of each partner’s behaviors and perspectives.

Polyamorous & Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships

As a Poly-Friendly Professional, I am affirming of relationships of all structures and specialize in assisting individuals dealing with the complexities of multiple intimate connections. I offer compassionate guidance for those seeking to expand the boundaries of their current relationship, as well as those who are already practicing non-monogamy.

I’m experienced in supporting couples who are considering opening up their relationship or marriage for the first time. Therapy can be an incredible helpful space to explore both the emotional and logistical concerns that come with transitioning into ethical non-monogamy such as:

  • communication challenges

  • managing jealousy

  • setting and maintaining boundaries

  • and more